Tips for Better Relationships

Wise people have said that life is a game, Or we can say it is like a movie and everyone is playing his part of the character. So if we take life as playfully as possible, there will be fewer conflicts as there is nothing to be taken too seriously. This mindset helps a lot to build healthy relationships. Have a look at following tips to make our relationships with others more healthy and better.

1. drop the ego- The problem with most of the relationship conflicts is ego. People feel that they are too important and whenever this ego of self stardom is hurt, the relationship becomes bitter. Hence if you want to keep your relationship with anyone intact you must not have an ego. Sometimes it is better to bow yourself down as by doing this you will not become small but by this gesture will be uplifted in the eyes of your partner. This little sacrifice of your ego will strengthen your relationship and make your life happy.

There is a beautiful Sufi Story By Rumi which goes like this:

“There came one and knocked at the door of the Beloved.

And a voice answered and said, 'Who is there?'

The lover replied, 'It is I.'

'Go hence,' returned the voice;

'there is no room within for you  and me.'

Then came the lover a second time and knocked and again the voice demanded,

'Who is there?'

He answered, 'It is you.'

'Enter,' said the voice, 'for I am within.”

 Mawlana Jalal-al-Din Rumi

This story shows that in love the differentiation between you and me doesn't exist. When you start giving importance to your friend more than yourself then there will be no conflicts and this is the best way to develop relationships. The Other one matters more in a true relationship.

2. Give Space- everyone needs freedom in life. Every human being has different needs and mindsets and if this free space is encroached it increases the stress and results in many issues.therefore to maintain good relationships we need to understand our limits and give a little bit of free space to everyone.

3. Trust- No relationship can last longer if you don't have trust in each other. Trust is the primary condition of every bonding. Once you lose trust, it becomes difficult to maintain the relationship and this concept is applicable to every relationship, whether it is work or love or home. Everyone likes the company of a person who is trustworthy. So try to win the trust of people who are related to you.

4. Time- relationships need time.try to spend as much quality time as you can, because without giving time you can't understand the needs of each other. Without giving time you can't judge the nature of any person and without giving time you can't understand the importance of that person in your life. Sometimes we understand the value of someone after we lose him/her. So Spend time with each other before it is too late.

5. Compromise- Compromises are the building block of relationships. We have to lose many things to develop relationships. Sometimes likes and dislikes of others become more important than yours. Remember, how much sacrifices your parents have done to bring you up. They have left many of their hobbies to make you happy. They have invested their money to make you happy. It is because they want to see you happy. Nothing in this world seems more important than to see a smile on the face of your loved ones. therefore, don't be afraid to make little compromises in relationships as in the long term they will give you immense happiness.